Into Depression’s Depths: The Truth About Depression.
June 17, 2020
“Death is better than bondage…”
A friend of mine once mentioned this to me when she was talking about her depression and at the time; I was too busy trying to cheer her up and make her feel better to actually ponder on those words. Fast forward to a few days later;I found myself thinking about those exact words while I was listening to a song and discovered that in those very words my friend had aptly described what it’s like to be depressed and suicidal,and if I’m going to be honest here,not a lot of us know what its actually like being depressed. A lot of us just think depression is all about feeling sad and blue most of the time as well as being overly sensitive when in actuality;depression is much more than an emotional state.
Depression is feeling like you’re not good enough because there’s a voice in your head that’s constantly shaming you and reminding you of your worthlessness. It is sleeping a lot because you are exhausted and drained from fighting battles in your head,while also having insomnia because the negative thoughts just can’t help keeping you up at night,it is smiling while feeling the demons creep up on you because you don’t know how to explain it to people and you’re scared of coming off as weird. Depression is struggling to live while also wanting to die because you feel like you’re living in a jail cell and that dying is the only way to escape it all, it’s facing the people who criticise and avoid you whenever you try to tell them what’s got you down,its listening to people play down what you’re going through all because they don’t understand.
Unfortunately,not a lot of people actually care enough to spot the signs of depression,most of us tend to brush it off as a regular mood swing when we see it,only to be shocked by the news of the suicide where we see everyone wondering why they weren’t able to see the signs and paying their respects to the dead(like they didn’t ignore the signs while the dead were living 😶). Most times people tend to see suicidal people as people who are just looking for attention which in turn causes them to dismiss them as clout chasers because they are doubtful of the possibility that the person in question can actually commit the act. This causes the depressed person to feel like they’re unwanted and alone,thus fosters the suicidal thoughts.
Although people consider suicide a real tragedy and wishes that the victims hadn’t done it,there are those who tend to be highly judgmental and disrespectful when it comes to deaths by suicide. A lot of people see suicide as a taboo and an abominable act and also go ahead to attack the dead,calling them all sorts of vile names and saying that they don’t deserve the respect that’s accorded to the memory of the dead because of the circumstances surrounding their death. A lot of people call suicide victims all sorts of names the most popular being cowards, weaklings and selfish individuals who didn’t consider their loved ones when they chose to go,most times without even considering the actions that led to it.
What a lot of people fail to understand is that before a person decides that suicide is their best bet,they’ve most likely been fighting a draining war for a long time in their minds,looking for even the slightest reason to keep living when they have voices in their head giving them millions of reasons why they should just do the world a favour and take their lives. Most people are quick to judge without actually trying to understand, a lot of people are so quick to say suicide is never the answer but are pretty slow to pick out the signs(or they don’t really care) and they don’t really try to understand what’s going on with the suicidal people.
We’re so quick to criticise them and dismiss their cries for help as mere clout chases while also disrespecting the memories of those who lost their lives to suicide. When we really should be considerate,give them support and a listening ear,and show them that life is worth winning and that they can win that battle in their heads. They don’t need judgements or harsh criticisms as that’s only going to add to the feelings of worthlessness which will foster the suicidal thoughts and eventually lead to a life lost if care’s not taken what they need is love,support and understanding so that they know that they are not alone and that life is worth living.
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